Your Date, Step by Step
A desire map, an AI architect, an AI host, five levels of closeness — and memory that grows between dates. Every step is about you.
Step 1
Your Desire Map — Private, Yours
Each partner fills out their own map — independently and privately. Every practice has two axes: what you are ready to receive from your partner, and what you are ready to give to your partner. They are independent: you can be open to receiving something but not giving it, or vice versa. Fill it as a list, or step into the Threshold of Desires — a card-by-card ritual with gentle swipes.
Green
Yes on this axis. The architect can weave the practice in this direction freely, at any point in the date.
Yellow — Curious
Open to trying, in the right moment. The architect saves these for the deeper levels, once trust has been built.
Red
No on this axis. If either partner marked red in a direction, the architect avoids it. Example: you're happy to receive massage but not give it — the architect will ask your partner to give, not you.
Step 2
Compose Your Date
Press 'New Date' and walk through a short seven-step wizard. Every answer becomes part of the brief the AI architect receives before it begins designing your date:
- Who plays — pick participants from your Circle. The date can be solo, for two, or for more — each mode has its own rhythm.
- One device or one for each. 'One for all' means the phone passes hand to hand. 'Each on their own device' means tasks sync live between phones.
- Scenario, starting conditions, accessories on hand, and delivery format (private prompts to each, one reading for the other, or shared prompts). You can compose your own scenario with notes for the architect.
”Level 1 · Spark
“Sit facing each other an arm's length apart. Rest your palms on your partner's knees and close your eyes. Take ten slow breaths together, synchronising the rise and fall of your chests. When you're ready, open your eyes and whisper a single word that describes where you are now.”
Step 3
A Cascade of AI Models Leads You
Your date is run not by a single model but by a cascade — several AI agents, each with its own role, passing results to one another. First the **architect** designs the whole date's arc before any task is written: a single destination, five levels each with their own mood, and specific moments (beats) inside each level. Inside one beat the architect can combine several practices — blindfold + feather touch + whisper, for instance. It respects per-direction consent and the partners' physical state across beats: if a blindfold goes on in one beat, it stays on in the next, and the active reader becomes the partner who can still see. Then the **host** turns each beat into a vivid, concrete task for the active partner, while the other receives a mini-task so they're not idle. Supporting models work behind both — for memory of past dates, for real-time adaptation, for consent enforcement. The cascade moves in concert, but the players only see the result: a single, well-timed task arriving on the device.
Spark
Breath, eye contact, first soft touch. The date opens gently.
Resonance
Tactility deepens, the partners' rhythms synchronise. Attention to each other grows.
Heat
Closer contact, more articulate touch, whispered words. First yellow practices may surface here.
Liberation
Peak vulnerability and trust. Emotional openness alongside the physical.
Ecstasy
Full surrender. The culmination, after which the host may offer a warm closing.
Memory Between Dates
The architect sees which practices have appeared in your recent dates and prefers fresh angles, so every date opens a new side instead of repeating a pattern. Favourites aren't forbidden — but the background tilts toward what you haven't yet explored.
Adapts in the Moment
Every task has Turn-up-the-heat and Cool-it-down buttons — if you want deeper or softer, the architect rewrites the remaining beats of the current level. You can also update your desire map mid-date — the host weaves it into the very next task.
”Level 3 · Heat
“Alice, take the blindfold and slowly lower it over Bob's eyes. Don't explain — let him sense what you have in mind. Then trace your fingertips along his collarbone, from shoulder to the hollow at his throat. Vary the speed and pressure. Don't speak — let the touch carry it.”
Step 4
Every Task Has a Named Reader
The active partner reads the task on the device; the other reads a brief mini-task (what to do while their partner reads). When the architect has assigned roles — who gives, who receives — the host follows them strictly. For example: if your partner is blindfolded and can't read, the other partner stays active and guides verbally. State carries forward between beats without 'resetting'.
”Level 5 · Ecstasy
“Sit face to face, legs wrapped around each other. Place a palm over your partner's heart and feel their breath beneath your hand. Find a shared rhythm — let your bodies say what it is. When the inner quiet arrives, stay in the embrace until your breathing settles together.”
Step 5
History & Growth
Finished dates are kept in your private space. The architect and host learn from them what resonates with you.
- An archive of every date — scenario, level reached, practices that appeared, your rating of the date.
- Update your desire map anytime. If you're ready to try what was yellow, mark it green — the architect will pick it up next time.
- The longer the history, the more precisely the architect tunes the date to you — drawing on your map, your rules, and the dates already lived.
Your first date is free.
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